You just stepped off the scale. Maybe you gained a pound or two more. Maybe you have been sticking to your plan, and the number on the scale has not budged. You are not a failure. Being fat does not equal failure.
We come down on ourselves so hard when we are struggling to lose weight. I cannot tell you how many times I have heard people make negative comments about themselves because another day has gone by, and by ten a.m., they had already broken their diet.
Losing weight, facing down binge eating, and sticking to a healthy eating plan is really hard. It may seem like it should be easy. Make good choices, and avoid bad choices. How hard could it be, right? Unbelievably hard!
I know many very accomplished people, very successful people who struggle with their weight. They are respected people who have done well in every area of their lives except in one area. Weight loss.
It can leave one feeling devastated. Every day we get up committed to losing weight, to exercise, and to have a solid mindset. Then the slip-up occurs. We will judge ourselves so hard that it can cause serious damage to our sense of self.
Instead of grabbing strength from deep inside ourselves, we will spiral into binge eating. Why not? We already blew it today.
No! One moment does not need to carry into the rest of our day. Right away, we need to get back to our program. You have a healthy breakfast, get to work, and someone brings donuts, and you just can’t say no to the donuts. Now you feel you might as well just keep eating poorly the rest of the day. You’ve already blown it. NO! Your next meal is lunch. Eat a healthy lunch and keep on going.
Beating ourselves up, feeling guilty, and feeling like a failure will only prolong our binge eating episodes making it harder to get back on track. We are not failures. We are human.
Being fat does not equal failure. Being fat equals being a human with a weight issue. Failure is giving up. Success is fighting for yourself regardless of slip-ups, acknowledging you will slip-up from time to time, but then getting back on track. I believe in you, and I believe in me. We will become former fatties!
Until we meet again, this is Linda Misleh Wagner, Future Former Fatty.
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