Remember the blog about being desperate and dumb about weight loss? Well, here another area I decided to explore. The desperation drove me too it, but luckily, I was not a dumb ass.
A friend of mine tried hypnotherapy to stop smoking. It worked for her, but only for a very short time. She got to six months, and I was so proud of her. So I thought maybe I should check into hypnotherapy.
Then one day I saw her outside smoking. I was leaving a party, and there she was by the side of the house puffing away. I went up to her and asked if she was okay. She said she was fine, but she said that she was smoking again and just could not stop.
I told her I understood, and I asked her about the hypnotherapy. What happened? Wasn’t it working for her any more?
She admitted the hypnotherapy seemed to work initially, but then, one night she was overcome with emotions. She was dealing with a serious family issue. Her mother was very ill, and her two sisters were fighting as to how to handle things.
One night, after she left her mother at the hospital, she drove to a convenience store and bought a carton of cigarettes. She knew she shouldn’t have, but she said there was nothing at that moment that could stop her from stopping.
She looked at me with big sad eyes. I could see the embarrassment, the frustration, and the worry that I would judge her all combined in her eyes. I pulled her into my arms and hugged her. I told her I understood. Her addiction was no different than mine. How she handled stress was no different than how I handle stress. Who am I to judge?
I went home, and a few days later I did research on the Internet about hypnosis to lose weight. I read site after site. The conclusion I came too was that there was no real scientific evidence proving hypnosis works to lose weight. Some people have some success if they combine therapy with hypnosis, but there is no real evidence proving long lasting results.
At that moment, I was thankful for the Internet. The research was easy, and I felt like I could make a good decision based on knowledge versus a bad decision and a waste of money based on desperation.
I am not here to tell you the hypnotherapy is useless or bad. Heck, if someone could prove eating monkey dung will help you lose weight and you will never gain it back…well, I can’t say I wouldn’t try it. No, seriously. Truly, I believe if something works for you, then by all means more power to you. I am just saying that knowing me, I would not be one of the success stories. I just know it. And, I cannot afford to spend money on one more product to lose weight.
I felt really good about myself in that moment. I made a solid decision, and yet again, the realization sunk deeper into the vortex of my brain that controls weight (it must be pea sized) that I needed to lose weight the old fashion way. STOP BINGE EATING. CONTROL MY IMPULSES. FOOD WILL NOT SOLVE MY PROBLEMS.
Hope it is sinking into my mind and yours. We cannot hypnotize our way to thinness. It might help a little bit, but it is not the answer to our eating habits. We are too strong willed, and our addiction to food is too complicated to be “slept” away through hypnosis.
We need to face the fact that the road we took to where we are at is a long one, and that the road back to healthy weight will be slow – and it will take reconditioning of our mindset and commitment to navigate.
Until we meet again, this is Linda Misleh Wagner, Future Former Fatty.