Have you ever wondered if you had been born Tom Hanks or Meg Ryan how much better your life might have been? Do you ever think to yourself if I only had been born to a rich family, or If only I had been born to be naturally thin my entire life would be so much better, so much easier. I bet you have.
We all have at some point thought someone else has a better, more interesting, more exciting, and richer life than us. It’s human nature. Heck, my own husband, named Robert Wagner (not the actor), born on July 10th, 1956, jokes if he had been born July 9th 1956, he would have been Tom Hanks (the actor) instead of Robert Wagner (the lead mechanic in building the C17s at Boeing).
I say if you want to be Tom Hanks or Meg Ryan, go do what it takes to live their lives. But before you quit your job, and run off to Hollywood, and start taking acting lessons, why not appreciate the life you have and make it a life others wish they had.
Don’t sit on the sidelines while others are doing the things you wished you were doing. Just go do it. If you are a couch potato, and you are sick of being a couch potato, get your ass off the couch, and go for what you really aspire too.
I’ve known people who complain that they have aspirations to achieve certain goals. When I ask them what’s holding them back, the answer is usually, “I don’t know” or “It takes so much time” or “Do you know how hard it is to become successful in that field”.
I usually give this answer, “The only difference between those who reach their goals and fulfill their dreams and those who do not, is those who do worked their butt off to get to where they wanted to be. What are you afraid of? What’s the worse that can happen? You fail? So what! Look at how hard you were willing to fight to accomplish what you wanted. Even if you don’t make it, at least you tried to live the life you wanted. And there is no such word as failure if things don’t work out. Sometimes what we think we want is not really what we wanted after we put in the effort. At least you can say you tried and realized that particular goal wasn’t for you.”
Hey, you know we do have the right to change our minds. But if we don’t even try, we live with regrets. If we try and find it is not the life we really wanted, we’ll walk away without regret, and we will have new knowledge and understanding about ourselves, and what we want for us.
Tom Hanks’ and Meg Ryan’s lives might seem glamorous and perfect. Truth is, if you ever had the opportunity to speak to them (not that I have had the chance) (Meg, Tom, I would love the chance to talk. Call me), you might find their lives are not much different than yours. We all have our problems. We all struggle over something, and we all should count our blessings for what we do have more often.
I wish I were born naturally thin. But if I were, I would not have met my wonderful husband at the gastric bypass reunion (my husband calls it the fat people’s reunion), I would not have had the opportunity to work with Aaron Snyder (and I adore him. He is a terrific man), and I would not be blogging to you (which I love doing).
Being fat most of my life is not what I would wish for anyone, but being fat has given me a different perspective and an understanding about people and life I may not have had if I had been born to be thin. I have made wonderful friends to share life with. I have a family I feel blessed to have and am grateful I was born into this family, and one of the common denominators is weight. Not that all my friends and family are fat. They are not, but they are all capable of understanding the struggle to lose weight or trying to maintain a healthy weight.
Be happy for who you are and the life you lead. Don’t let fear, or your size keep you from going after anything you want. You might not be the thinnest, or the richest, or the most eloquent, but who says you can’t have fun working to be thin, or make your fortune, and a good etiquette class can teach you to be eloquent. Whatever your dream, whatever your goal, go for it!
Until we meet again, this is Linda Misleh Wagner, Future Former Fatty.
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