Future Former Fatty Blog 90: How You Can Support Your Loved One
Support Your Loved One By Showing Love, Not Control
Have you ever wondered how you can support your loved one who needs to lose weight? I would love to share with you a few tips that I hope will make it easier to be supportive in a positive manner. I know it is not always easy.
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We love our loved ones very much, but sometimes it is very hard to deal with their weight problems. We may be scared their weight may affect their health. We may hold back from doing activities because our loved one is incapable to participate, and this may frustrate us very much. And we may not find our lover as attractive with the excess weight, but we love them and don’t want to walk away or give up. How can you support your loved one best and encourage them to lose weight? Here are some tips that may help.
- Your wife or girlfriend is already upset and frustrated about gaining weight. They want to please you and want you to find them attractive. So whatever reason they have been gaining weight, they probably will bring up the subject of how frustrated they are for two reasons. One, they count on your support and trust in your love, and two, they may be stating their fear to you before you state it to them that you don’t find them attractive any longer.
- Don’t say things like “Wow, I know. What do you do, graze all day?” Instead, tell them you understand their frustration, and ask how you can help. Offer to walk and exercise with them. Tell them that you worry about gaining weight yourself, so let’s make healthier choices together.
- Don’t nag her about their weight gain. It will only make them want to eat more.
- Instead, try to get to the bottom of why they have been binge eating and gaining weight. Did something happen that triggered them into feeling the need to self-medicate with food?
- Let them know you love them no matter what. Remember, you are with this person out of love. Even if they may not be the most attractive to you, always keep in mind, that if they are going through something, you’re there for them to support them, as you would expect them to do the same for you.
- Do your best not to sabotage their efforts. If they are just getting started on their weight loss efforts, it may not be the best time to bring home a large loaded pizza and chicken wings. It is not to say that you have to suffer and avoid eating what you want, but remember your goal is to support your loved one that needs to lose weight.
- When I was 21 years old, my first husband got very ill. I was told by his doctors that he would probably die, and if he lived, he would probably be quadriplegic the rest of his life. I was a new mom of a six month old. Talk about overwhelming. Thankfully, he pulled through, and is doing fine. At the time, I knew I would stand by his side no matter what. I wasn’t trying to be heroic. I loved him and cared about him. He was my husband, and I took my vows to heart.
- The same with weight gain. You love this person. Do what you can to help and be supportive. Ultimately, it is up to them to want to change. Chances are, with your sincere love and support, they may reach their goals, and you did it together.
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Be supportive to those we love when they have weight to lose is hard. Life is hard. The best part of life is having someone you can count on to share the difficult times and get you through it. The reward is you succeed together. It is worth the effort knowing you have the people around you supporting you, and it is equally rewarding to the people who have supported their loved one. It will only bring you closer together.
Until we meet again, this is Linda Misleh Wagner, Future Former Fatty.
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