I have always been an all-or-nothing kind of girl. The only part of me that tends to be “in the middle” about any subject is when it comes to discussions. Whenever there is a discussion about something, I can have trouble deciding how I feel about the topic because I can usually see both sides. Ultimately, this ability serves me well because I can be fair and discerning and logical in my decisions toward the topic in question.
My all-or-nothing personality does not work well when trying to change my mindset. I know I can lose weight. I know I have succeeded before on high protein, and a healthy fat, low carb diet. So why have I been struggling to lose weight trying to make changes and follow Aaron’s guidelines?
It is because even though I need to make small changes, I am fighting my all-or-nothing nature. I recognize I am not ready to give up most carbs at this time, which Aaron’s program does not demand of me. His program says make small changes. It is me that keeps trying to completely eliminate sugar and white flour when I am not ready to completely eliminate it. In short, I am fighting the program.
So it is time for me to be realistic. In my last blog, I announced my three promises to you. Nowhere in my promises did I say I was going to give up any food group. Instead, I am going to acknowledge what I am eating, plan ahead, and ask myself questions to discern if I am choosing health-beneficial fare or health-sacrificing fare.
I feel by accepting where I’m at in the process and being realistic I can make changes in the “order” I need to reach my goals. I know there are choices that are more effective to my success, but the real choice I need to make first is to discern what I am eating and why I am eating it.
Does this sound too analytical? Maybe. But this is what I feel I need to do to make the changes I need to make. Some people can just do it. They pick a diet and stick to it, eating what it says to eat, until they don’t any longer. Of course, they gain their weight back.
I want to get to my goal and maintain my weight for the rest of my life. If this means I need to get to the bottom of why I binge eat, and this is the route I need to take to get there, then I will do it. Changing behavior and mindsets means knowing what behaviors you feel need to be changed and why you think you should change them – and what makes you do them in the first place. This, after all, is at the heart of what Aaron talks about.
Take a look at what you are doing. Are you really aware of what you put into your mouth everyday? Does it include mindless eating? Are you tracking mindless eating? I think we are always surprised when we really pay attention to what we consume. Follow along with me, and let’s see how we do.
Until we meet again, this is Linda Misleh Wagner, Future Former Fatty.
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